I feel for your sitch, you're obviously under a lot of stress and pain. Why is the W involved in telling your parents? You can tell them whatever you want. I would tell your inlaws the truth too. The kids are more challenging. Have you read MWD's advice on telling children? I would tell them what you wrote above. You cannot give any details, but your children are old enough that once divorced they will figure out what's going on.
