Husband gone for second time - new here

[Caz49]

To me it sounds like you've got your answer, and moving would work best for you two. You say you don't know how separating your daughter from her father will affect her...well he's not exactly beating down the door to see her now. Putting your life, your career on hold waiting for him to 'wake up' isn't helping either of you right now. Maybe moving away will be the wake up call he needs...maybe it won't. But which scenario is working for you? Definitely not this one.

Weigh up the risks, if you still feel moving is the right thing to do, then ask him for assistance. Of course your daughter will be upset, but her (and your) expectations that he'll visit will be reduced and theres always Skype. Out of sight, you may begin to feel less overwhelmed...and I know that feeling well! But maybe just the action of doing something will make you feel less swamped in feeling lousy. I always feel better once I'm taking action. And you'll have less time to give H a second thought because all your energy will be going towards the move, and your daughter. H may just get to realise he's not number one top of your priorities anymore!

It won't be easy but nothing about separating is ever easy.

Write some pro and con lists...and take some action. Hugs