You, (and now everybody else too ), are doing it again . Example:
Quote: I'm also trying to understand why she doesn't thank me anymore for the AOS I have been doing. It might be payback for the thankless years of her taking care of everything. If that's the case, then I'm happy to let her have her retribution. Better there than in the bedroom.
It may have absolutely nothing to do with you. There may be no sinister motive or anything behind it. Stop making every aspect of her behavior "about you." You're not her puppeteer (how many "t's" in that word?).
Question for you to think about: What does all this examining and analyzing her do for you? What do you get out of it that keeps you doing it?
General set of heuristics that I think works well: Give my spouse the benefit of the doubt. Save my microanalysis for myself. Give myself frequent breaks from microanalysis.
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