Sotto, that sounds like a long ordeal for you. I'm sure it'll be the same for me. It's so great that you had your parents to help. My husband and I signed our own financial separation agreement because our state doesn't recognize separation. It's only for our existing situation though and doesn't reflect the costs of moving and living in the new city. I need to see if there's anything other than divorce in our state that would require him to help.
Caz, thanks for your encouragement. I do actually have more of a support network in the city where we'd be moving. I lived there for 13 years and have many friends and colleagues. I'd probably get a live-in nanny if I have to work full-time. There's still a lot of risk though - not knowing how separating my daughter from her father will affect her and not knowing if my health will get better or worse.
All, my husband canceled his coming to see our daughter again today. He's done this a lot lately. He says he's busy working on his million dollar house where he's living alone and the rest of the time he's 'tired' from working. I really can't tell if he's mentally ill or just the 'worst' father in the world. I was so sad, so upset, so angry when he called to cancel again today.
It seems this marriage can't be saved. I'd still love to wait and hope and practice the LRT, but there's so much more that I haven't even written about on this forum that indicate my husband has no intention of fixing the marriage. It's all so overwhelming.
