Another question- this morning I woke up with a nagging thought. W has some items that OM bought her- perfume and a tin of cosmetics. She also has the sex toys he had her buy. Here’s the nagging thought- I felt a strong urge this morning to gather that stuff up and get rid of it. I know it would be an issue with her but I really can’t stand the thought of stuff he got her being in my home. I also thought I would move back into the MBR. She’s the one who cheated not me. Why should I sleep in a room with my S13
You should have claimed the MBR when you first went back home. Sure, go ahead. Just realize it's probably going to cause a sh't storm. If you can handle it, go for it. But why now, just a few days from Christmas? I would wait till after Christmas and then make the changes immediately afterwards.
I read in a earlier post about you wanting to pack up the sex toy and send to OM. Please, never do that! Seriously, what type of reaction would you expect from him? He would laugh at you for knowing another man is sending your W sex toys and you not doing anything about it......but return to sender. Not a good idea. But as for throwing them out.....I would say yes. You should have a boundary in place that nothing stays in your home if it comes from OM......(or any keepsakes from the A).
I'm glad to hear how GAL is helping you. I wish we could convince other LBS how it would benefit them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
