Separation imminent....

[Hermes]

One more that I'm feeling pretty certain on and want some outside thoughts on:

She's said she hopes I can forgive her for what she's done to me someday (just like I said this to her prior to her saying this to me).

Know telling her won't make any difference...
But I'm really starting to firm up my thoughts on this:

I can forgive her for the A, but I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive her for leaving me for another man (when D is over).

Regardless of what she says @ the A not having "ANYTHING" to do with her decision(and I know she has good reason from past to WAW...) The fact that she's giddy about the OM and appears "Head Over Heels" in Love with him (for at least 7 months and likely ALOT longer given how long they've been at this). She is in effect leaving me to be with OM at this point in time (guessing that's one of the prime reasons she's DEATHLY afraid of A getting out to Family/Friends/etc.; it would make the OM MUCH harder to be with if her Fam ended up rejecting him..[not that this is my motivation for them to know... I'm more about them knowing b/c I did ALOT of crap in the past, much of which they are aware of... but I want them to know that when push came to shove and she told me she wanted to leave... I took a hard look at self; did a 180 on vast majority of behaviors and still working on self as it's right thing to do for me (and if we're together for her), but that the sad reality is there is OM waiting in wings for her and she has decided she wants to be with OM). I saw enough from discovery of A to know this 4 certain. (She might have ended up leaving anyway, but with OM it was 110% guaranteed once she decided she'd like to leave to be with OM).

I feel I owe them an explanation (not of in the weeds but broad brushstrokes on this unlike me being laid off or her having Health Scare a while back... no need to tell them @ these as they are not certain... this is certain and directly affects them).

Or is this just Pride getting in way of DB?