Does anyone understand why the WW still wants to make small talk in texts? If you want to get a D, why keep bothering the LBS? Attention? I'm not understanding and it's confusing to me.
There are ways about women that men will never understand........and the ways of a WW are even more complicated. There is no logic to it and you'll go nuts trying to figure her out. The best way for you is to accept it is probably opposite of whatever you think it is.
She doesn't want to be your W, but she wants some level of connection with you. Not in a romantic/sexual sense, but sort of like an ownership of you. I think 98% of the cases I have read, the WW wants to maintain some type of "friendship" with the H she dumped. However, there is a vital difference in his definition of their friendship......and hers. He thinks their friendship will gradually lead back to a romantic relationship. But she is a user.....a taker.....and she will use him and take advantage, and if he tries to step back or refuse, she claim, "But you said you wanted to be friends". So, it's a no win situation.
What you can do is be civil. Perhaps there will be times you can even show a small level of friendly behavior.......the way you would toward a neighbor that you don't really care to become best buds. Know what I mean? You speak, or wave.......and keep moving.
I wouldn't give her any in depth speech about why. Just say, "Thanks, but no thanks". I mean.........friends? seriously??
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
