Husband gone for second time - new here

[Sotto]

Hi Nicole, I think on the financial front it is less about 'asking for help' and more about agreeing suitable financial separation terms. From what I recall he has stayed in the family home and you are renting an apartment.

When XH and I S, I walked away from the marital home - I couldn't bear to stay there alone. We also had a city flat, which XH used for work. Effectively I became homeless and I also left my job as I left the area to move back in with my parents. After a few months I asked XH for some assistance in renting an apartment and he reluctantly agreed to offer six months rental cost and then I'd need to sort myself out (charming..)

Well, I did sort myself out, but I was basically broke for 2 years whilst our D went through and the marital home and city flat were sold. I'm now financially comfortable and thankful for that. But I did let my strong desire to save the marriage impact on how robustly I dealt with him and I did suffer financially for a while. I was lucky to have my Dad in support, and he kindly helped out a little too.

So, the big message from me is - this isn't 'help' from him. This is getting a separation agreement in place, which deals with financials, custody and any other matters that need to be agreed and in place for you all...

Xx