I wrote another complete response yesterday and just as I was wrapping up the power went out and we lost internet connection. This forum doesn't seem to have the technology to save a draft so it was all gone again. That's bizarre to lose the same response twice! I guess it wasn't meant to be.
Sara, Rex, and Jim, thanks so much for your responses. I'll just quickly respond before something else happens - I can work-from-home as a consultant on US government projects so I'll try to find a short-term contract. My husband left two years ago and said he was sorry he returned but wasn't willing to put in effort to fix our marriage. While I believe I could forgive him and try to let go of the past if he truly wanted to change for the better and re-commit, that hasn't happened. I'm trying to practice what's in the DB book right now, and did so when he left the first time, but I guess I went wrong in not having a strategy in place after he returned the first time. Everything was tense and he kept promising to work on the marriage after he did x, y, and z but it never happened. I kept waiting, not acting like the loving wife I used to be but just waiting and doing my own thing except for approaching him every month or two to ask what he's thinking and when he could work on the marriage. Finally, Jim, yes I do feel paralyzed. It's the first time in my life when there's no option that is either realistic or good. The unrealistic ones I guess I need to drop and go with an undesirable but possible one. I have to start over again in every regard - as a single mom, with my career now that I can't travel and work 12 hour days like I used to do, with my health, financially, in a new apartment / city, etc.. I have to re-define my life but it's really hard because I have a toddler who needs to be #1. I'm hoping to define a path quickly, which leads me to a question ---->
What if I told my husband of my plans to move and the financial support that I'll need? I still think moving and getting a job in my field is the best option. I can't wait until the week before I move though to talk to him because he needs to help financially. This means he needs time to adapt his spending and save for what we need. Or, if he says no, he can't help, it's better for me to know that so I can either fight for help during the divorce process or accept that I have to stay here. Is there any reason why I can't talk to him in the next few weeks? How does that affect my otherwise practicing the LRT?
