Very wise words. Thank you. I will certainly reflect. I just wanted to clear something's up. Where I live he is or was considered my H. And he pushed for the separation agreement and me to go to a lawyer. I just followed. He was threatening to take the house etc and I needed to go and find out my rights. Once I saw a lawyer he relaxed his stance on the separation and I haven't heard since about it. Before he was telling he was going to get one drawn up and I would only need to sign it. As for the new gf I totally get it's none of my business. But in the best interests of the kids etc, I would have liked to known. I guess it goes back in our history that he lied about the other women and it just bothers me that he would do this again especially now when it doesn't matter. There is nothing to lose by his lying. I did not scream at him or anything. I simply said if this is his desire then ok. I would pack up his stuff so he had it and the break would be clean. I do not and never have wished him ill. My therapist said that my H displays narcissistic qualities and won't change without effort. She's seen him before so she knows him. I am concentrating on the kids and my GAL now. I have no pressure to put the family back anymore. There is no more limbo. I can move forward knowing he is where he is and maybe he can find happiness. But I will go back and read my posts as you suggest so I can make changes to better myself for myself.
