Some amazing posters have weighed in to give you their opinions, and I sense you have not reflected on their thoughts.
I suggest you reread your own threads again with a pen in hand and journal on what is being said to you.
I support the views of the posters,
And here are a few of mine:
I have rarely seen so much self sabotage in such short threads. And additionally such stinking thinking.
Your BF (not H) is free to do as he chooses. You went for an S agreement, you are living apart.
He can date if he chooses and that is none of your business. You have made it very clear to him that you don't want R.
What is he supposed to do but use LRT?
That is what I would do if I were your bf. Sort out arrangements for my children and move on. I can't see that anything but total subjugation would please you at this stage.
From where I sit, he is in an angry and confused space.
Go back review your threads and observe yourself as if you were a third party person (a reasonable person) and ask is what Henry is doing going to reconcile her R. Read the wonderful words of 25.
Of course he is covering up his dating, he doesn't want to be treated to an adverse reactions and yes he would be better off saying "none of your business".
And are you angry because of his dating or because he isn't doing what you want of him?
My strong thoughts are review and reflect.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
