Dave, I think you're trying to go too fast. Yes that will lead to burnout. One reason I blasted all the way through the book was I wanted to see if I could grasp at least a "shell" of the "whole thing", and in case there were any caveats late in the book about how to or how not to approach it. There are. So maybe you might want to consider finishing the WHOLE book before worrying too much about how to proceed. Also talk with the C. I also think you have an unrealistic idea about how differentiated your W is. The book makes the point repeatedly that we always choose a partner at the same level of differentiation. Unless she found a way to increase her differentiation without knowing what she was doing (which is possible), your W is pretty much on the same level as you. If she is more highly differentiated, that may be one of the reasons for your discomfort. As for your W possibly being gay, I think you need to really confront yourself on why you are so afraid of this. You seem to worry about it constantly. Or maybe not constantly, but regularly. Why? I'm not gonna even try to guess why you would dream about this, then immediately about a phallic symbol... Chill for a bit, regroup...
