Just got a call from W at my office...i picked up without looking at the number (since she never calls here anymore). Said, if we want to sign these papers, there are some things I need to provide her. I simply said, "just mail everything to me and I will look at them when I get a chance"... She said "what?" I told her again to just mail everything to me and I will look at them when I get an opportunity. She said ok, then we hung up.
How did that make you feel? Can you see how she waves the bait in front of your nose, wanting you to bite? Pure manipulation! I couldn't help but laugh a little, b/c she wasn't expecting the answer she received.
I am really proud of you, Chris. This is exactly the way you should have handled that call. Just don't get scared and back down. She is trying to stay in control of the situation. I don't think she even has papers, but it doesn't matter. You can probably expect to see her turn up the heat with temp checks. She'll want to be assured she still has you eating out of her hand. She may show up late one evening, or call you (in tears) and ask you to come over. Don't fall for it. Tell her to leave, and don't go to her place. There have been some crazy stories on here how WW's would show up and throw themselves in the arms of the unsuspecting H. They would usually have sex, and then she would immediately turn cold again......b/c it was all a temp check.
You've shown strength and courage......and self-respect. I think separation has helped you to slowly regain some self confidence, and see the truth behind her actions more clearly. If she is ever going to turn herself around, these are the traits you need. If she never improves herself, these are still the traits you need. B/c guess what? I think you are beginning to see that it is no longer all about her. Women like her are seldom givers. They are takers. If she doesn't learn consequences from her selfishness, she will always be a taker. In the meantime, you are going to have a life of quality and live like you want. In other words, it's going to be about you.....at least for a while. . In fact, this may be the only time in your life that you'll be able to do whatever you like doing, without worrying about what someone else thinks.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
. In fact, this may be the only time in your life that you'll be able to do whatever you like doing, without worrying about what someone else thinks.