Oh yeh! Trust me, everyone here knows it's hard. But I can tell you when you do let go, the other side of the tunnel is brighter. you will feel a load off your shoulders and will be able to relax and think in a calm cool manner.
AnotherStander had posted on my thread a while back about the LBS and WAW/WW fog and how they are diametrically opposed. The LBS is in this fog where they think everything is their fault and they are dead set on doing everything for recon. Once that fog goes, the LBS can see much clearly that they weren't the only one at fault and can look at their MR objectively, and ask the question - what does she bring to the MR? Is that what I need and want?
You can't get there until you let go of the hopes for recon and start focusing on yourself. I am not saying abandon all hope, but just tuck it away in a lock box in a deep corner of your heart. We all have. Otherwise all of us would've just filed for D and moved on with life. But we're here trying to save ourselves and hope that the MR can be saved along the way. But if the MR doesn't get saved, you have risen out of the ashes like a phoenix and are stronger.
Think about what Joe2017 version 2.0 is going to look like. And work like hell to get there. Only a fool would want to leave that Joe. And the best part is, you can do it as many many many folks here have.
