From your wife: "We are both recovering and im so updet you just left like that bc i didnt show you my phone on demand. i dont know if there is anything repairable. you havnt been able to stay calm around me and you seem to always leave in anger an din a rush without just allowing the convo to evelop and happen. Were both hurt and angry and trying to recover and its going to take pateince , respect, and understanding to move forward. i dont feel that from u for me. I dont feel that you love me anymore. and if that is the case then thats ok thats your choice but then please just say you want to end this."
wow!!! can you see how she has made this all about her? and how she is hurt... how you hurt her... she cheated on you... she left you twice... and she is still in touch with OM... and she feels that you don't respect her????? the only way she mentions your pain is she pairs it with her own pain: "we are both in recovery, we are both in pain." she does not own that she has caused you pain, but she sure points out that you have caused her pain... and even caused her to cheat... that's what she is getting at...
she is not humble, she is not ready to reconcile with you... she is not ready to ask for forgiveness... she is still seeing herself as the SUN and you as one of her planets that revolve around her...
