she says: "i wanted to see you tonight to just hang out for once, and talk, and try to be close and see if there was till something there. I didnt want to get too much into anything bc i wanted to just have a night to try to be normal."
this is typical unrepentant WW behavior... it's non-committal... she is not wanting to commit to your marriage... she wants to give just enough to keep you hanging on... and because she hasn't committed, she still feels she is free to live the single life with OM... her boyfriend... if you did hang out with her, and things were pleasant, your hopes would be raised, she would pull back, and the cycle would start all over... you would go dark... blah, blah, blah... i am glad you left... she did not get her way...
