Hoosjim's 9th: WW, A ended(?); "All-in" or not?

[hoosjim]

I don't understand. Does she mean that you and her BFF has to be buddies, if the MR was to be maintained?

Actually, it was a bit more me on that end of it... It came up in the context of it being a challenging three days, between her dinner with bff, stop by at that store, and then the kiss thing. Got talking a bit more about bff and it was I that made the comment that she was a big girl and could decide who are friends were, but needed to decide if her friends were supportive or detracting from where she wanted to go in life... If she and I are working on "us", i have my doubts about bff based on my last interactions with her. Told her that i wasn't sure how I saw two relationships that important to her coexisting without there being some sort of olive branch or other kind of reconcilliation from bff, who has clearly "wronged" me by working against my marriage. She said she could understand how i felt that way, didn't seem to angry or defensive. Didn't say she expected us to be able to hang out... just that she had thought how weird it would be if bff and her AP (who, youll recall, is a former friend of both me and my own best friend who is W's best friend STBXH).