Excellent job, Gordie! Your DB Coach has and is continuing to help guide you.
As bttrfly said, if you do rebuild your marriage, it will need to be rebuilt from the ground up, i.e., brand new relationship.
Continue as you have been and know that we are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
