Journaling ... Last email sent was 4 days ago . He tried to connect shyly with them small short msgs but they did not answer. I guess sometimes they don’t know what to say. So my email today was mainly focused on my perspective and my analysis.
I understand he is trying but they sense he is still distant. They also don’t know what to expect and so they maybe trying without thinking to protect themselves from attaching to him and he might be doing the same. I said it might take time for both to decided what kind of relation they want. I asked him to think how does he want that and wether a yo yo relation is what he is looking for or a deeper one. I told him when he share places he visit it is really nice but kids don’t know how to reply as they don’t have that in common.
Let him think , I also attached an article on fear of intimicy saying this might explain kids actions although it can also explain his. ( I didnot say that) Maybe I should not have done that (attached the article) but it is ok to make mistakes sometimes... I don’t have the fear of consequences no more.
At the end I just said will keep sending you some updates maybe it will be of benefit for him and the kids .signed a friend .
M 45 H 45 D1 12 D2 9 BD 04/14 Living two different state Not officially separated
