Separation imminent....

[Hermes]

Have you changed your look. Are you wearing clothes that fit. Have you gotten new smell good.

new wardrobe... dressing much more "adult and professional" working hard to remain clean cut at all times... Found a cologne I liked and put it on daily... (she's commented several times I'm putting it on to thick...so cut back some... AND she's commented on it calling it me wearing "perfume" I'm guessing to cut me down... but I just smile and go about my business).

Stop looking back at your mistakes and look at where you have come and where you are going.

Worrying is taking a thought and replaying it over and over in your head. You have these buffering thoughts in your mind. Let them go (stop buffering). I know it's hard. Worrying stops you from interacting the way to your truly need to. Worrying stunts your growth. If you believe in GOD. I'm a christian, then there's a saying that goes, if you asked GOD to do something for you, and you are up at night worrying, then GOD can go to sleep(which he doesn't), because you are trying to do his JOB for him.

I am in fact joining the church as we speak... have been Christian all my life... just not a joiner.
I like that quote

Start smiling at your W, start laughing around her. Do these things over, and over, and over, and over, and over. Sooner or later she will smile and laugh back. If you have to do it a 100 times or 1000 times, do it. It's not about the smiling and laughing, it's about the consistency. At first it will feel fake, but as time goes on it will become natural. Be positive with your W. Don't resent or be mad at her. Positive begets positive. If she yells at you, you smile back. If she tells you something you don't like, you smile back.

You have a great point there... I had vacillated all over the map... euphoric one day... upset the next... Working on Balance... lately I've been somewhat Melancholy...
That said, A simple smile towards her whenever I see her... and finding things to laugh about with/around her... THAT I can do! great suggestion. and one that I've gotten from many including MWD (always be upbeat around her no matter what...)

You respect yourself and she will respect you back. When she notice, that her mood can't affect yours, she will know that there's a new H. H2.0.

Let her leave. YOU WANT A WIFE THAT WANTS TO LIVE WITH YOU. Give her a chance to feel what it's like to live without you. In that time, you get buff, you find new friends, you find new hobbies, you move on with your life, not looking back for her at all.

You are the prize not her. Pick your head, I can see it hanging down as I read. Look in the mirror and smile... Smile and say hi and by to your W. Detach lovingly. Here's the thing and AS is the best at this. If you truly love your W, you don't want to hurt her, you just want her to respect you.

Loving someone is hard and it takes work. But what I find that's harder than loving someone else is loving yourself. Are your loving yourself right now. You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.

See the premise. Respect yourself and others will respect you. Love yourself and others will love you. Be positive in yourself and others will be positive around you. All roads leads back to self. So fixing ourselves is the true journey not saving our M. And by doing all these things, we make ourselves more attractive, we leave our S space to find themselves and see us as not really being the problem. We also give them space so we can heal, and not create anymore damages, this makes the road paved back to us smooth.

Keep your head up. Onward and Forward.

WOW this is powerful stuff... You are right... my head was hanging pretty low recently (much more so since her Communications proposal came out).
Working on self esteem, smiling at her (I actually am fairly positive now (used to be extreme pessimist) and even all of this junk in my life hasn't made me become pessimistic again... still smile, want to do nice things for others, am working on my kids to help them be better people (kinder, explaining to them concepts I'm learning in church as I join about the religion; trying to connect more with them).

Thank you for sharing this with me