Separation imminent....

[joejoe1]

H,

Have you changed your look. Are you wearing clothes that fit. Have you gotten new smell good.

Stop worrying about what your W is thinking and what she is doing. You have to let go. If you want her back let her go. Stop trying to hold on to her. Pick your head up, stop looking down on yourself. You made your mistakes, you acknowledge them. Now it's time to work on becoming H2.0. Stop worrying about if she sees your changes. You caused damage. We all have. Now you are working and fixing that damage. Great job. You are on this forum. Stop looking back at your mistakes and look at where you have come and where you are going.

Worrying is taking a thought and replaying it over and over in your head. You have these buffering thoughts in your mind. Let them go (stop buffering). I know it's hard. Worrying stops you from interacting the way to your truly need to. Worrying stunts your growth. If you believe in GOD. I'm a christian, then there's a saying that goes, if you asked GOD to do something for you, and you are up at night worrying, then GOD can go to sleep(which he doesn't), because you are trying to do his JOB for him.

Start smiling at your W, start laughing around her. Do these things over, and over, and over, and over, and over. Sooner or later she will smile and laugh back. If you have to do it a 100 times or 1000 times, do it. It's not about the smiling and laughing, it's about the consistency. At first it will feel fake, but as time goes on it will become natural. Be positive with your W. Don't resent or be mad at her. Positive begets positive. If she yells at you, you smile back. If she tells you something you don't like, you smile back.

You respect yourself and she will respect you back. When she notice, that her mood can't affect yours, she will know that there's a new H. H2.0.

Let her leave. YOU WANT A WIFE THAT WANTS TO LIVE WITH YOU. Give her a chance to feel what it's like to live without you. In that time, you get buff, you find new friends, you find new hobbies, you move on with your life, not looking back for her at all.

You are the prize not her. Pick your head, I can see it hanging down as I read. Look in the mirror and smile, and get some clothes that fit that new body, 70 pounds, man that's awesome. Get some new smell good. When you dress good and smell good, you feel good. Let your W see and smell the new you. Smile and say hi and by to your W. Detach lovingly. Here's the thing and AS is the best at this. If you truly love your W, you don't want to hurt her, you just want her to respect you.

Loving someone is hard and it takes work. But what I find that's harder than loving someone else is loving yourself. Are your loving yourself right now. You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.

See the premise. Respect yourself and others will respect you. Love yourself and others will love you. Be positive in yourself and others will be positive around you. All roads leads back to self. So fixing ourselves is the true journey not saving our M. And by doing all these things, we make ourselves more attractive, we leave our S space to find themselves and see us as not really being the problem. We also give them space so we can heal, and not create anymore damages, this makes the road paved back to us smooth.

Keep your head up. Onward and Forward.