Cadet--indeed... that is why i worded it the way i did... "as far as the world is concerned," he is an above average decent man... he is not what doodler or hoosjim describe as the OM: no job, out of shape, substance abuser, broken family, etc... he doesn't have the exterior of a "loser," a "trade-down." as far as the world can tell, (and the world did not know he was a cheater) he is a decent guy...
