the ONLY path or even the MOST LIKELY path to reconcilluation requires separation just seems nonsensical to me.
I am going to have to wholeheartedly support LH and disagree with you hoosjim. Having lived in an in-house separation for couple of months vs. moving out and being physically separate is not even on the same level. It was absolutely crucial for my own reset process to have the physical separation. You are able to achieve the necessary distance to look at yourself, your W, and the MR objectively and get the space to figure yourself out. It also gives the other person a look at life with you. I would rather put my feet on hot coals than live a single minute in the same house.
My mental sanity has improved by a billion fold just not having her around. That alone is priceless.
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in particular where a couple is at the stage W and I are at (that is, already trying to some degree.)
I am sorry but your W is not trying. Sandi and Artista have already painfully pointed this out to you. You need to look at everything recently that she has done and none of it points to her trying to work on the MR and unequivocally being transparent and full in.
