You're welcome to stay here as long as you are not seeing other men. You're also welcome to go if you think that's best. I am not saying i want a separation, just that right now, where you are, I don't know how beneficial further MC would be." And then pull back, stop pursuing, be pleasant when around her, and go have fun and be amazing on my own. Presumably all after Christmas.
I have posted on your thread in the past because your sitch reminds me a lot of mine and we are close in age. My W was "trying" for roughly 2 years. We were even having great sex during that time frame. However, I could always tell her heart wasn't into it.I am about one month away from being divorced.
MY sitch was never going to get better with us living together. Like Sandi always says " I have never heard of a couple reconciling during in house separation."
IMO if you say what you mentioned above your wife will gladly accept that offer and then leave you minute she finds somebody else. In other words, if you don't physically separate and let your W see how life will be w/o you, this will not end well.
