Wow, michlynn, what a FANTASTIC question, and THANK you for providing such a detailed example! The short answer is, Yes!
Quote: But, now I see some other destructive patterns in our marriage (not enough to destroy the marriage but enough that I sometimes just want to walk away for awhile, find an empty field, and scream in frustration).
That is an example of self-soothing by creating distance between you. PM will show you how to hold onto yourself and deal with your frustration while maintaining close proximity to your H. In other words, you won't need to go to a field somewhere and scream.
Quote: Specifically, I'm talking about some passive aggressive behavior from my husband instead of just confronting me directly...
That is a "textbook" example of "Normal Marital Sadism", which is dealt with specifically in PM.
Quote: But, I ended up feeling some resentment that my legitimate feelings of anger had to take second place to reassuring him
That's quite understandable. If HE had been able to soothe HIMSELF, and hold onto himself, he wouldn't NEED your reassurance. You would both be able to stand on your own emotional legs.
Yes, PM is EXACTLY the thing you should read next!
