Just out of curiosity, don't you need to sign the divorce papers too? I don't know much about the actual process I guess they eventually mail you something to sign too...it seems to be a multi-step process so I hope your wife will be thinking about what she's doing along the way.
Your situation is so sad. How can people do this to each other? Losing romantic feelings, in my mind, isn't a reason to get divorced. There needs to be some effort to restore them and other aspects of the marriage and even then the marriage can be re-defined without the full romantic feelings it used to have. I just can't understand how someone can just walk away without trying. Even if there's another man, how can she be so sure about him to lose her marriage?
I wish our society held people more accountable for their actions. I wish families, churches, social institutions, and other networks would intervene more so someone can't just walk away from their marriage without anything stopping them. Why is divorce so easy? Does marriage really mean so little nowadays that you just file a paper, pack your bags, and totally disregard the one you left behind?
Anyway I hope this nightmare will either end with your wife returning, begging for your forgiveness, or you finding a new happiness that's much greater than what you had with your wife. In the meantime, you're not alone. Maybe there's a divorced meetup group or a local church support group in your area? It seems like finding other people going through the same thing may help you to get through this.
