Gordie #14: the end of my M to MLC W, I think

[Gordie]

Update:

So stbx came to talk about the D agreement and there are more things she wants to change. No change on the 50-50 on custody but it’s just more back and forth on the financial side of things. And then we had a long R discussion, summary below:

W: I don’t know if I want to D. Why can’t I have you and OM2? Or why can’t you stay here after we D? I’m sorry I’ve hurt you. You have become a different, better person (she listed specific things she liked better about G 2.0). If you had made these changes years ago, things would be different. You are my best friend. That’s the best part of our R. Maybe we’re just not sexually compatible. Why dont your respond to my physical advances any more? Do you think we could rebuild our M?

G: I want to be your H not your friend. I will not be in an open M or three way R. You asked some time ago for us to stop our physical R and I have honored that. If we get D, then I am moving out. I want my own space and my own life separate from you. Re sexual compatibility, I have asked myself the same question and I don’t have an answer for you. We never openly communicated about our sexual desires. If we had done that, then our sexual R would have been very different. We can’t stay M if you are pursuing other men. If you were willing to recommit to our M, then we could build a new R but it would take a lot of work.

Thanks to all of you. If I didn’t have all of you, then I would not have been able to have that discussion as confidently as I was able to do.