Agree re being served. I hated every second of it and felt humiliated, embarrassed and very, very angry. I am not the sort of person who gets served summonses. I try to do the right thing, in my private life and public, and to be named as respondent on those papers made me feel so bad.
I doubt I will ever forgive that. Well....I doubt I'll ever forgive anything. I like bttrfly's idea of 'fierce compassion' - it's going to take something like that to deal with the anger I feel towards XH for making me out to be the one who smashed our family up.
Peacetoday is right though. Now that it's done, it can't be undone. The other shoe has dropped. He has done one of the worst things he could've done - which takes out a very large gun from his armoury. When these people run out of ammunition they might actually have a moment to stop and think things through, and that's when I expect they'll figure out they are best off giving up trying to hurt us.
