Husband gone for second time - new here

[rexgm]

All, I really wish there was more data on the long-term outcome of marriages fixed by DB methods. Yes, many of us do save our marriages in the short-term, but how many of us stay together until the end of our lives? Yes, it depends on many factors, but some people have major character flaws like cheating, addiction, etc.. or shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Some of the spouses here have done really bad things.

Nicole,

It all depends on whether or not you can truly forgive your spouse. I cant speak for all, but im sure some people DB and get success but never truly forgive their spouse and let go of the resentment. Forgiving is much easier than truly letting go of the resentment and anger. you just have to be honest with yourself. I would think DB is the easy part but at this point you are just working on yourself. Afterwards it is trying to find compromise without losing yourself in the relationship again. Honestly i dont see my relationship getting here, but im sure it can be scary as heck to trust your spouse like you did before the BD. But to me fear is just another motivator to make myself better.