p.s.... i meant to add that during our false starts, i withheld meaningful affection/sexual affection from my husband because i did not want to give him the wrong idea... it's strange because even though i was trying to do just enough to keep our relationship going, i didn't feel right taking things too far... i didn't want him to get his hopes up... it didn't seem fair to him--bizarre, i know... and i also didn't want to "cheat" on the OM...
IDK if I have said it on this thread, but somewhere on the board, I have practically said word for word what you stated here.
I'm glad you have decided to start posting. . It's been several years since my wayward journey, and sometimes I think maybe I'm too suspicious or negative about the LBH's accounts of their WW. So, it's refreshing to see reinforcements......and I'm sure these guys are ready to hear what you have to say.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
. It's been several years since my wayward journey, and sometimes I think maybe I'm too suspicious or negative about the LBH's accounts of their WW. So, it's refreshing to see reinforcements......and I'm sure these guys are ready to hear what you have to say.