I really feel like after D I want nothing to do with her as long as OM is in picture. Brief exchanges with kids or logistical conversations (which is all she's interested in at any rate).
What is it about being DIVORCED that you think will automatically make you feel this way?
What is preventing you from acting this way now?
I've been holding onto hope that she might still come around before D is final... know it's not likely... but once it's final, I figured no reason to keep on hoping, just needed to move on with my life completely and as part of that stop communicating with her about anything non logistical with kids.
I also figured that in order to give myself the best shot at DB I needed to keep contact pleasant with her... I guess the fact that I was trying to DB and act "As If..." the affair doesn't matter concentrating instead on her...
Which as I say this, sounds pretty thin...
I have been taking her "warming up to me" behavior (really kind words, always thanking me, doing a few nice things) as positive signs based on my actions (making sure I always recognize her for anything positive she does as I'm convinced one of her primary love languages is Words of Affirmation) (especially as she told me the reason she worked so damn hard vs spending time with me is that she's actually really good at her job and continues to get a lot of praise for what she does)...
Know she's here through first part of Feb (before everything is in place to help her move) before kids start shuttling between us and only see each of us 50% of time.
Other than LRT and keeping her in Basement to sleep along with continuing to GAL, work on self and focus on kids... anything else I'm missing?
Me 47 STBXW 44 M ~20 D13 S15 BD mid 17 A Disc. 2 months after BD but evidence found ~2yr OM decade older S Imminent D Soon after
