New LBS dealing with WW

[Joe2017]

So some background. My wife met me while I was in the military. I think it was a big part of what she liked about me: strong confident, in control. Etc. I worked hard and finished school and got a great corporate job. That's when things started slipping away.

One day she came home from work and told me she wanted a divorce. That she doesn't feel the same way anymore. That she loves me but is not in love with me, etc. We had a short argument. Anyhow. I totally screwed up Sandi's rules because I didn't know about them at the time.

I got her flowers, cards, and reiterated that I believe in our marriage and our family. She has a son and I have a son, so blended family but none together. Anyhow, all that stuff backfired. Shortly after I found this forum.

For about a week I've been working on GAL and have started taking night classes, wearing better clothes and cologne. Dropped a noticeable amount of weight. Working out more. Never calling her first. Doing some simple chores I know always annoyed her, yet leaving enough chores for her to do so I'm not Suzy home maker.

She has made comments like "Why are you making all these changes now that it's too late?" To which I just ignore her. She's also complimenting me on how I look all the time. So I know she has noticed my changes.

However, she is still making baseless accusations and projecting her negative feelings towards me. She isn't making rational sense.

She is doing WW stuff like telling me about how she gets attention as the the gym from guys. She stays out late with her friends. Tells me she is flirting with guys. I ignore her traps but acknowledge her feelings. I've stayed calm the whole time.

She told me she doesn't feel safe so I told her that she needs to get her son and leave then, for her safety. I then left the house. She called and apologized for how she acted.

She has been to an attorney and she said she filed for divorce, but I know she did not yet. I am trying to buy time to GAL and win her respect back.

She won't move out of the house with her kid and makes excuses as to why, including that I've "trapped" her. That she feels like I'd damage the house with her gone, etc. Simple but strange behavior for her.

I think I can save this because it's so early. I'm asking you guys for help. I really do miss her.

I think if she really wanted to leave, she'd be gone by now. Clinging to the house is uncharacteristic of her. She's someone who is very independent and assertive. If she wanted to move out she could have arranged it in a day's notice.

Thanks for your help everyone. Does it sound like I have hope? Or should I cut losses and quit?