Tim, Thanks for the fast reply! I do intend to try and get H to join me in reading this. Especially since it sounds sorta life-changing . I like your suggestion on how to approach it and I plan on using it.

On differentiating and always worrying about how others (H included) feel/perceive/think about me...I wonder if this has contributed to my being LD. I remember being very "free" when it came to ML in the beginning of my marriage. The fact that I became LD, I think, comes from not wanting to be judged by H and also the pressure he put on me for NOT wanting to ML. As strange as it sounds I have almost become more inhibited the longer we are together. You would think it would be the opposite. I feel he may think I'm "slutty" if I initiate, so I don't. Is this because my focus has shifted to being a mom? Again, I don't know. See how I worry how he is perceiving me and how he is really feeling is not that at all!?! So complicated.

Thanks for the welcome and I hope I can contribute once I've started reading!!