Not abusive, if that's what you mean. She is close with and still loves her parents, brother, and sis very much. Her upbringing was very,ummm, repressed(?) Strict catholic upbringing, alot of guilt for doing the wrong thing, almost puritanical to the point she was scared to date. "Good girls" didn't hold boys' hands or kiss them under the mistletoe (or ever). Alot of expectations, she feels, placed on her as the oldest to be a good example. Never had a drink until college, her first sex was also college and ended in a terminated pregnancy... very traumatic for her but she was afraid would devastate her folks to tell them. She still carries around that guilt. The whole puritanical view towards sexuality and even physical intimaCy was VERY contrary to "who she is", which is naturally very touchy, hands on demonstrative affection, even with guys she's just friends with and, with someone she's involved with, a VERY strong sexuality. Created alot of inner conflict for her growing up especially as a teen.
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H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
