Hello all...let me introduce myself...I'm tulip and I'm a former WAW. I have been lurking here for months as I'm also trying to work on my SSM. I've come a long way I think. I am inspired and moved by you all!

I am very intrigued by this book you are discussing. My H is reluctant to read books like this. But I'm hearing that it is worthwhile even if only read by one of the persons in the marriage. Correct?

I'd also like to add that there is hope out there. Things can change. I was/am the LD in the marriage. We had a spell of no ML for over 6 months. And other times were feeling like "obligation sex" to me. I know that is NOT very long for some of you but I realized this was a HUGE problem AFTER I decided to work on the R and not just get the big D. This month we have ML six times (I think that is pretty good! ). I still want better though.

I'm going to order this book today. I find the concept of differentiating very intriguing. I am constantly judging my worth as to how others view me. Will this book really help me with that??

tulip