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[gw5263]

Hey all,
Been away for a bit working a lot and really having a good time with friends. Ie made some really positive changes of late. I have started working on detaching pretty hard,I have are no mention of the A, the MR,or working on us. ive been working on my GAL, had the metal detector out, and caught up on a hobby I let go a long time ago, model building. Things here have been different In the last couple of weeks. I’m not reading anything into the goings on but, W has only FaceTimed OM twice, once thedayefore thanksgiving, and this past Saturday for a halfhour while I was at work. I know this because my kids told me that she hasn’t done it since. They used to tell me how long she was in the room talking with him, and I also did check the phone logs... I know, leaenit be. But I had to know. She has changed her demeanor, alternating between pleasant and very edgy and moody. She has not gone on her walks at all, which is when she would telephone him. Also,a bottle of perfume he got her has bee gone since Saturday. I haven’t smelled it at all. She texts me and asks me about the day, and laughs and try’s to joke around when I am home. She has even flirted around a little and called me a pet name she used to call me before all this began.i realize this could all be a giant temp check, or may be in response to me pulling way back and not pressing anything. It could all be nothing. But, the fact that I have been able to stop pursuit and back away is for me, something. I have really struggled with this since I got here. Now I come and go as I please, interact a lot more with my friends,, and have injected a bit of myatery into the mix. I get texts all the time from subordinates as friends at work, so I’m on the phone quite a bit when I’m home. Lately she’s been asking who I’m texting or trying to look over y shoulder... not sure what to make of any of this or if I even should. I have found that distancing has brought me a form of peace. I stopped wondering what she was doing, who she was talking to, and what she was thinking. I have tried to push the both of them out of my head and go on working on myself. The new feelings I feel are starting to make me think hard about all of this. Why did I go to such extremes to “win back someone who didn’t want me” . Why did I put myself thru so much turmoil, wracking my mind and almost going insane trying to figure it all out. All I have to do is let go, and let it be what it will. There has been no more talk of D so far.guess. I am happier now tho. As I said, I feel some semblance of peace settling in. Hoping this all works out for the best. All I can do is keep doing what I’m doing.