Kml - No bipolar issues in family and up to this point no behavior like this from him ever, he was a solid stand up guy. OW was the girlfriend of an old friend of his we ran into at a family get together. H and his family hadn't seen the guy in quite some time and OW wasn't with him that day. The next week they went on a day ride with H and a bunch of his family and friends. All was well and then we had our issue. Not long after that the friend and OW split up and then they ran into each other while H was out with other friends. It was the most he had been out in years and he was feeling down and apparently she is very good at making a guy feel better about himself.
Hmmm...he meets her once, then she just "happens" to dump (or be dumped by) her boyfriend and they just "happen" to run into each other later? Sounds really suspicious. I'd guess one of two scenarios:
1) They met at that party, flirted or even kissed behind the boyfriend's back, and then she dumped him for you H OR
2) they met at the party, her boyfriend dumped her shortly after for unrelated reasons, and she, being a desperate type, locked onto your H ASAP
If number 2 is the real scenario, guarantee she's a wack job. I mean, who starts up a serious relationship with a guy who has just left his wife only a couple weeks after she goes through a breakup? Only someone who cannot bear to be alone and always has to have a man on the hook. DEFINITELY not a healthy successful woman who just happens to fall in love with your husband.
I wonder if a chat with H's old friend would be enlightening as to why they broke up, and just what kind of woman she is?
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One of the first things we did was to seperate finances. He still pays for some things and says he will continue. Not sure how long that will last if he moves in with OW like she is asking. Thankfully our kiddos are older so no worries on that front except for the hurt and anger they are feeling.
There's a lot more to worry about than just child support. Do either of you have retirement accounts? Savings? If you would be entitled to half of his 401k in a divorce, but he goes out and drains the account and spends it, you haven't got a lot of ways to recoup that money. Definitely see an attorney and just find out what your options are to protect yourself financially. You may need to file an order for temporary support at least to ensure he keeps paying the bills. Plus an attorney can give you an idea of whether you would qualify for spousal support and how much (or whether you would have to pay HIM spousal support if you're the higher earner.)