as i said in my thread, i am impressed with your willingness to delve into DBing... you may question the tactics, but you still do them--for the most part... have some success... and then you get scared...
you say you are confused because of the conflicting messages you are getting from your IC and here... but are you really confused? i think you really know that what your IC is telling you is not what you need to be doing... but your IC's way lets you be in touch with your WW, and that appeals to you... tugs at you...
don't do it...
if you did what your IC suggested, your WW would put you in a place you don't want to be... she would see you as "a friend," and/or she would pit you against OM... you would have to compete for her... and you would be at a disadvantage... she would tell you that she would have to "see" how things go between the two of you before she could commit, never intending to commit... then what?
then you are back to doing what you are already doing... NC... GAL... until she scoots your way again--manipulating you to bring you back into relationship talks... and the cycle repeats... don't do all that... from what i have seen, it takes most LBS several cycles before they full-on DB, if they ever get there...
however, you--Chris19--have not really cycled... you have had a couple of slip ups, but that's it... i think you are doing really well... don't let yourself get caught up in the cycle...
one more thing--since you have been posting here, your wife has mentioned printing out and signing "the papers"... exactly what papers is she talking about? do you definitely know?
