You are trying to figure your whole Sitch in one day. It won't happen. You are going to have to slow down. You are trying to fix everything at once. You need to find something that will call you. You are in for a long ride. Work on yourself first.
You need to really stop worrying about your W. She isnt coming back anytime soon. It took many years to get your M to the point its in now and it will take time to get you W to see you in a different light.
A pastor once told me that my W has these pictures in her mind of me and they stuck up on her wall. I have to retake those pictures in her mind. Give her new pictures of you. With that be said, those pictures will only come when you let go and calm down and work on DBing. Theres no magic answer. Only hard work.
There are different point of views on here, you have to decide which one works best for your Sitch. You are going to have to try things and evaluate. That's why there's is no magic pill. Each WW is different and have their reasons for wanting out. You have to ID those reasons and 180 those behaviors. Dont them for her bit yourself. Usually the problems she ID's is something you would need to work on anyway so, doing 180s for yourself ends up giving your W new pictures of you in her rollerdex.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
