the ring is a symbol of the marriage and commitment to it (she still wears hers some days...some she doesn't...not trying to read too much into it... likely it's her way of easing into the D vs having different thoughts about it.
D means the end to me... the end of our commitment/vows/promises and the beginning of complete and total separation (save for anything about kids...). It means the death of my love for her... I will need to find a way to kill this off in me or I won't be able to move on... and she was and still is the woman that almost from the day I met her I wanted to spend the rest of my life with....but then life got in the way... and we each didn't know how to deal with it... (albeit my issues were more damaging to relationship than hers... but she had a role to play as well).
I'd like S to give me some breathing room to adjust to new job, new normal maybe continue to improve communications btw us b4 we start adversarial process of mediation which I really think is likely to get ugly quickly as we will have different agendas in it. This is a lot like me asking her not to do D over Holidays for kids and to give me time to start really working on myself with Counselor (as I had a really crappy one from July - Sept; but have since found a very good one and that has helped a lot). I am in a better place personally now than I was in Sept... but things continue to deteriorate btw us... She's pulling away more and more each week (almost like she has a 12 step detachment program she's putting into place; esp given some of the "broken record" sayings she pulls out when she starts to care or shows she's upset at my GAL... (really think IC or Friends are helping her along... or maybe even OM)).
Me 47 STBXW 44 M ~20 D13 S15 BD mid 17 A Disc. 2 months after BD but evidence found ~2yr OM decade older S Imminent D Soon after
