Quote: Tell me, what were the choices the guy in chapter 11 had to make that restored his marriage.
They each had some tough choices to make, and hers were tougher. They both had to confront themselves on a number of issues. First they had to find out (for themselves, and within themselves) what those issues were. In one respect, they were lucky, because the issues were pretty clear-cut, although it took a LOT of work (especially on HER part) to be able to FACE those issues. If you read this book, I think you will find particular resonance in her initial stance, which was, in effect, "I'm not going to have sex as long as I feel pressured." and "As far as I'm concerned, I'd prefer lifelong celibacy." and "Neither having sex nor getting divorced are acceptable choices."
If you get this book, DO read Chapter 11, but if you can, I think you will get more out of it if you read it from the beginning, and then GET to Chapter 11. I think it will really hit home then. Plus, along the way, you will get introduced to the concept of self-soothing, which I think you need desperately. You are very bitter right now, and I can't blame you. I felt the same way not so long ago. I don't blame you for feeling skeptical about my own transformation, because it seemed to come out of nowhere, and I also have not proven it by action yet. So don't trust me... read it for yourself.
