H.....I will offer my thoughts. My parents got D'd when I was in Kindergarten and it was kind of nasty. My dad didn't pay child support, my mom had a warrant out for his arrest, I would go long periods without seeing my dad, he told me my W cheated on him with my step dad, I witnessed them yelling at each other over the phone, when he came to pick me up he would always pull up in the driveway and never came in the house, etc. etc. etc.
I never knew what it was like to experience my parents together in the same room, interacting with each other in a positive manner. I also always felt like I was the peace keeper between them and really experienced severe stress the first time I knew they would be in the same room which was my wedding.
I say all that to say this.....do it for your children. Don't put them in a position to have to choose sides and feel awkward around each parent. You and your W should be able to put your differences aside and come together for special days like this. I wish my parents would have been big enough to do that for me.
