You also rationalize her behavior a lot. Something doesn't sit well with you, we agree it shouldn't, then you make excuses for it and pretend like it isn't that bad.
I think Ginger is right. Sometimes, you are explaining the situation more clearly, but other times, I feel I can respond with an entire page to a request for input, only for you to come back and rationalize what she did. I mean, if we have it wrong, tell us.......but I agree that you seem to rationalize a lot of what she does. Maybe that is your coping technique, IDK, but at times it's almost as if you just can't bear to see it for what it is.
Anyway, I'm kind of glad it wasn't just me who sees it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
