No it doesn't HAVE to be the end... I suppose I could continue to act as if I was married... keep ring on finger... not date anyone... continue to focus on myself and kids...
This is about you. What do you want? What does the ring mean to you? What does divorce mean to you?
Im just curious why you are placing such an emphasis on adding in a separation step or why you are so scared of divorce happening quickly.
Originally Posted By: Hermes
the most salient one is that I really think we both need to get our feet under ourselves
a second one is that she might find out that this guy is a lot like me anxious, etc...
Im asking about YOU. Why do YOU want to have a separation?
In my reading of what you are writing, you basically just want that legal string tying her to you as long as possible.
Hve you ever thought that maybe that string tying you to her is what is keeping her from considering R and is driving her away? She is fighting so hard to lose the string, that it doesnt matter what you do as long as it's still there? That pressure you are continuously applying is only making her want to run faster.
Imagine walking along and something grabs your leg. What do you do? Try to shake it off! Imagine if it clings harder and tighter...the natural response is to SHAKE HARDER. To me, you pushing for a trial separation is just that - clinging tighter.
