Drowning in his crisis

[Gordie]

Hunny,

I have asked myself all of those same questions. And you know what? It was just a waste of my time that I’ll never get back. There are no answers to those questions so why spend your precious time ruminating them? Take a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Enjoy the sunset. Talk to a friend. Read a book.

My stbx told me she found her soul mate in OM1. I spent hours and days wondering if this guy would make her happy, if he was her true love. Then they broke up and she is now on to OM2. Does that make me feel better? No.

And how long were you married? Don’t let him gaslight you. No, he wasn’t miserable the whole time. You did have a real relationship and good times together. He may forget those ever happened but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t.