Tell her how you feel about what she did. Tell her how she hurt you. I'd also make the comment that if she's not going to try, only test you that thus us not going to work. I would not wyne about it or cry or complain, just say it, say, I just thought you should know and move on or walk away. I'd put it on her and move off of it.
DonH, this sounds like a good course of action to me. I have asked Sandi2 to weigh in, too, especially since we seem to be drifting back into WW waters.
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Otherwise she very well may BD again in January.
Sandi and Don-- she's not going to BD. She's too afraid of losing/alienating the kids and/or looking bad. Unless she just goes full-on "i don't care who I hurt wayward" which, so far, she has not done. Every time she has stepped to that edge she has stepped back. If I hadn't uncovered what I uncovered last January, I might never have found out until she actually did drop the bomb. No, if she goes back to OM, it will be in the deepest secrecy she can manage... if i had to guess I would say on an overnight "girls weekend" where she could ditch car and phone and not be tracked. Either that or a meetup at a distant venue where I am unlikely to show up at so she can take her phone and still meet OM there. She's not going to openly BD, though... I'll have to find out on my own.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
