MLC or WAS... either way, I'm here

[peacetoday]

Hi

wow thats a lot to process

Sound like you did well and got some confirmations
The Mlcer does seem to pick the troubled woman who needs rescuing
maybe it makes them feel better about themselves

My XH said he met his "equal" in his OW
she "got" and understood him and looked up to him
and I guess I was a nag and probably wanted to change him

Anyway it didn't last b/c they are D now
and unfortunately your H will figure it out in his own time

they do rewrite the history and lie a lot

keep moving forward and taking care of yourself
In time you will be more OK with it all