WW ended EA 4 mos ago; trying to restore intimacy

[DonH]

"To kiss her like that, thinking it was invitation when in fact it was a test... hurts. Now, our MC has told us we are going to have to be deliberate, and kind of test the waters like that but... the way my W did it definitely left a bad taste in my mouth."

I really don't know if my advice is a good idea or not. Perhaps sandi can comment as I far more trust her advice on somethung like this than my own. However I think you should tell W this. Tell her how you feel about what she did. Tell her how she hurt you. I'd also make the comment that if she's not going to try, only test you that thus us not going to work. I would not wyne about it or cry or complain, just say it, say, I just thought you should know and move on or walk away. I'd put it on her and move off of it. I think she's being allowed to get away with too much Crap here. If Sandinista right and she's just trying to get through Christmas and if you are right in that she was trying harder when she thought you might leave, letting her know you are getting back to that point might be your only chance. Otherwise she very well may BD again in January.