How to end the fighting.....

[Holding]

Is it normal to get to the point where you want nothing to do with the WW?

Yes. Absolutely.

So how do you detach from the anger and resentment?

For me, it took time, and I still have anger left. I think it's just a process you need to get through. But going to IC, having people to talk to, and GAL can help move you along.

Oh, and yelling when you're alone in the car helps too

So how come when I am faced with a similar choice I choose to fight? Is it some inherent fault in me?

Fight as in "fight for your M"? Nothing wrong with trying to save your M. But sometimes we fight without understanding why. Ask yourself why your M is worth fighting for.

Don't beat yourself up over inherent faults. We all have our own faults. No one is perfect.

How did I grow resent someone I love so very much?

Deep question. The person you loved and trusted more than anyone else is rejecting you. You've watched as their heart became cold and unrecognizable. Resentment is only natural, but it's a feeling, and feelings change.