still struggling

[Jim1234]

We had Christmas dinner last night with the kid's godparents. Really nice night. We were pleasant, although I wasn't completely comfortable. Kind of pretending we're still a family, even though we really aren't any more.

We talked the day before. We talked briefly about Christmas and she said she'd like to talk about alimony and child support sometime. I think she's just realizing that her support will drop by almost 1/4 in 5 months (arrears paid, and 1 child emancipated), and is freaking out.

I said ok. She talked a little more, and I was agreeable, but she never mentioned a day or time, and I'm not about to schedule these talks for her.

Also, someone else's thread Sandi2 mentioned being cautious about "talks" just before Christmas as they are playing on guilt, so I'll watch out for that. Any further insights, Sandi?